First Impressions FAQ You make your best real-world first impression by being calmly and confidentially yourself. Try to enjoy the nervous energy you are feeling. Have fun. Remember to smile. People are perceived as more attractive when they are having a good time. Your date will form an immediate first (physical) impression of you, usually in under ten seconds, based on some combination of these attributes:
•• posture
•• walk
•• body language
•• attire
•• physical characteristics
•• smile/facial features
•• handshake
•• grooming
•• scent/perfume
•• eye contact
•• perceived confidence
•• perceived comfortableness Inside Information On Positive And Negative Impressions Several hundred single men and women attending dating and flirting classes were asked to list the attributes they find attractive and unattractive in a potential partner. Below is a list of the most frequent responses. Although many of these attributes may not be immediately apparent, most will show up sometime during a first date. Attributes Leading To A Positive Impression:
•• warmth
•• sense of humor
•• imagination
•• confidence
•• success
•• fitness
•• individuality
•• body language
•• conversational ability
•• aspiration
•• power
•• creativity
•• kindness
Attributes Leading To A Negative Impression:
•• self-centered
•• closed minded and judgmental
•• lack of manners
•• poor conversational ability
•• negative life attitude
•• lack of education
•• immature
•• indecisive/without an opinion
•• lack of integrity
•• war stories from past relationships
•• whining and complaining
•• shallowness
•• only interested in sex
•• power games and manipulation
•• materialistic
There are no do-overs when it comes to first impressions, yet many of us fail to put our best foot forward during early romantic encounters. We want to be loved for who we are and are leery to "package" ourselves in any way. This is understandable, but not always realistic. Dating is a numbers game and, like it or not, dating occurs in a competitive environment. The next positive, first romantic impression you make may turn into life-long love--not a bad return on a relatively minor investment. |